It sounds like he will miss you either way. There is still a lot of good stuff going on between you. My other book does warn about not spending enough time alone. The doctor states that we spend more time with other couples than we do alone. We save our best stories and jokes and outfits and dinners for other couples instead of each other. I had no idea until it was too late! Now, I tell all couples I know about Dr. Weiner and Dr. Kreidman and their books. Most of our couple friends look a lot worse than my H and me, too. Even out therapist said she usually does not see couples who are so amicable like us. Yeah, but they are still together and we are not, so what is the deal with ten years?
We have the problem that I have been doing too much with my W and that she feels she has lost her independence. She feels compelled to ask me along even if she doesn't want me there.
Your point is well made, I have noticed I have far better and more natural (fun) interactions with my friends than just the two of us do right now. This is probably because I feel freer and find it easier to tell all these stupid stories than I do with my W. Like you both I still get on really well with my spouse, but she sees us as 'housemates' and doesn't seem to want to unpick that label and try to be anything else. Guess what ... been together 10 years too. She moves out tomorrow and I still love her like nothing else on earth.
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
