Cemar I know you like Dr.Lauras ideas but the thing is YOU can not use "the care and feeding of husbands" it is not written for you it's a book for women. Let it go, Dr.Laura gets you unfortunately you're not married to her.
I think you should look to a male perspective, like Dr.Glovers book.
Here is a snippet from him.
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Let go of attachment to outcome. Nice guys are always trying to control the people and situations around them. They are risk-avoidant. They don’t like surprises. They want a smooth life. This kills a man’s life energy. It makes him bland and boring.
