Hi again! I'm trying to think of how to shorten your name. "Meg?" "Gator" kind of appeals to me--you being from Florida.
Been thinking about your phone call question. I think that, first off, you might want to slowly cut down on the number of calls you make to H. If he notices and mentions this, you should probably apologize and say that you got busy doing something.
Wait. Watch. See what happens. You don't want to cut off communication or make it less friendly. Try missing the occasional call from him. Call him back an hour or so later, and explain why you missed it. You got busy doing...something interesting. Act excited about the interesting thing you were doing. Obviously, this calls for a lot of sincere-sounding fibbing. You don't want to overdo it, and make it sound like you're playing games and trying to make him curious about your activities--although this is exactly what you are trying to do.
Every time you try something different, monitor the results. See how H reacts.
Right now, he probably thinks that he can have you as a friend should the marriage go south.
You may be Ok with that. But if you aren't, then you need to let him know that D means losing you.
You might want to post a bit here and there on other threads similar to yours: and that way, you'll end up with a variety of opinions.
