First timer Ugh!

[jmegator]

Thanks for all the insight!! Thank God for this friendly site.

Well I guess I shouldn't have skimmed the LRT chapter b/c I didn't really understand that it meant going dark. No need for that right now. It would be hard to do anyway b/c H and I talk or text about every other day.

I'm in Florida right now with my Mom for 2 weeks on vacation which is really nice b/c being in your hometown you kind of remember who you were before you got married. I kind of lost myself being married and really ended just being my H's spouse. I'm so used to being an "us" that I can't really remember me. What do I like to do? What is a perfect night out for me? Hobbies? I can't even answer basic questions about myself anymore. Being home reminds me of the carefree fun me, ny role as the peace keeper and entertainer in my family. It reminds me that I have a great support system and life just does not stop b/c/ you are having a hard time. My sister announced that she was pregnant and that was kind of hard b/c/ I'm obviously jealous. H and I were planning on a starting a family and now we are really far from that. But at least I get to be an Aunt again.

Okay..not done reading the books (I have both and am steadily making my way through)But here's my question for the day. I am seperated but H and I still talk a lot on the phone or texting. Not always about the relationship just about whatever. After reading that great success story by Tampa man (I think) it seems like I need to detach and GAL. GAL shouldn't be too hard b/c I am now living with one of my best friends and there's a whole group of us who like to go do stuff. I know I'm GAL for me but also it is good for H to know that I am out there having fun (not in a bad way of course) My question is how will he know that I am GAL? We obviously don't travel in the same circles anymore and I could be having the time of my life but he still may think I'm at home waiting for a phone call from him. Also should I stop answering the phone everytime he calls? I know he hasn't stopped living his life with his friends but he still always answers my calls (even if he is in a movie)so should I keep answering mine?

I am determined to be happy and not wallow!!! H and I were seperated before after one year of marraige and I was 22 and a complete wreck. I am almost 30 now and need to be way more mature about this. Time to grow up even if it is hard.

sol1696,
Is it the 8 year itch??? This sucks!

delia,
I don't actually consider myself a Texan yet. I've only lived there 4 years and I was born and raised in Florida so I'm really still a Floridian. But yee-haw to you anyway!!!