Thanks Dave and Sunny! You guys are just awesome!!!
Dave,
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OM's going through his own D , so what part of knowing how to maintain a relationship do you think he knows ???
I've thought about that too (which is why I mentioned it in my last post), but he may very well have been the LBS -- I don't know about his sitch at all. He is older and therefore maybe wiser in what he needs to do to make an R work, esp now that he has just finished with an apparently poor one. That is my concern, but you and sunny do make excellent points, and I guess it is just my defeatist attitude getting in the way of my PMA.
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Hes as screwed up as your W right now , yes sure hes on his best behaviour for now but him making changes for your W is way different that making changes for himself.
I hope the best behavior is temporary, but like I said -- he may be motivated to stick with what he knows works to keep my W interested and with him because of how young, beautiful, and intelligent she is. She is way better than he is and he is not deserving of her IMO. Again, I no I shouldn't fear this kind of stuff, but it creeps in from time to time.
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OM is just behaving well right now , I guarantee he has made no real changes and this will show soon enough.
Again, I hope you're right. And I agree that the living everyday together will eventually make things not so glamourous.
sunny,
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GD, he's right you know, how many of us who have gone lickedy split into another R, especially a marriage, and have not just dragged our baggage to the next R to work out there? He's no exception I'm betting.
Thanks for the reinforcement here. I hope he's no exception. Plus, I know that W hasn't really worked on herself either, so she will be bringing her short comings (and she does have them) into the R as well. Hopefully, in due time OM won't be willing to deal with and work on them with her like I am (or at least not work on them in a productive manner).
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A little more Mr. Potato Head & out the door.
I'm so lame... Does this mean you've gotta make up your face and head out for something? Never heard this before, so please forgive my ignorance (again).
