Yes I do miss the good old days when church leaders were not afraid to call you to the carpet, but in a way that you felt it was you making the decision to turn things around. Perhaps it isn't time for that yet. I think when it is the right time, it will happen. Part of the reason I think things have gone as well as they have for me is the fact that most changes have been W choice, I have just shown support. I hope my patience holds out.
Yeah, I think you need to get away from the OW check, that's only going to keep the wound open for both of you. Plus that doesn't build much of a trusting relationship, he will question if you will ever trust him. I try to rely more on the HS.
