Because we're not horrible people. We didn't provide something to our spouse that they needed. That's being HUMAN! Making mistakes is human, forgiving is divine. That's why giving forgiveness is so hard for our spouse, they have to stretch to do something that might be uncomfortable. And they think by doing it they're giving in to us. I wish they'd remember when they made mistakes and needed forgiveness and requested it of others. It's like they have done no wrong. We just want the same consideration they got when they needed repentance and forgiveness. Is that really so much to ask? I don't believe it to be, but who knows.
So JR when are you going to forgive yourself?
Now getting that out of the way, yes I believe it can be saved. Why, for two reasons, her agreeing to meet with the pastor and you and for going to the counseling session. What she said was defensive plain and simple. If she was completely done she wouldn't have done either. So there is a shred of hope, sure it's a really, really fragile and thin thread of hope but hope nonetheless. You've all to often pointed that out to me and indirectly you just did it again, thank you!
Oh and if you want some inspiration, you gave me some about 2 weeks ago. From that I have put my ring back on and she noticed. I told her it was my symbol to myself for what I believe and value most, faith, commitment, honesty and family unity.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
