O,

I can't agree with Sara enough -- the communication between you and your W isn't very mature IMO (I hate to say that, but I feel that same way about my communication with my W up until a few months ago). Much growth needs to be established within both of you if this R is going to work in the long run. Your W thinks she is perfect (which she obviously is not, esp in terms of fostering healthy relationships), and you feel justified hanging up on W without effectively communicating from your end. You both need to stay consistent with your behaviors and interactions with one another if you are to get anywhere. I hate that this comes across the way it does, but I just can't find a way to word it any more concretely. I don't believe that either of you are ready to get back into this M right now. Much growth needs to be understood and experienced on both ends. You are both going to have to take things very slowly if you both decide to reconcile, or I fear you will again find yourselves back in the same place you're in now. Please take this to heart and FWIW. I really want to see you make this reconciliation last.

Take good care of yourself, O!

GD


Me:29 XW:27
T: 10 M: 7 (2 kids)
Sep: 11/06/06 D'd: 12/07/07
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