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I am doing everything I can do to better myself and I have backed off. I know she will realize it one day, just worried what year.

I think I might of pissed off Jazz with one of my posts on his thread, do you have a 2x4 laying around?


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Yeah sometimes I worry once he realizes it it may be too late.

Uh oh. I may let me look around.


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Where's Amy when you need her. \:\)


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Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Where's Amy when you need her. \:\)


Not sure, but I need her so bad, I want to hold her, make love to her, let her see that it can all be okay.






















My wifes name is Amy \:\)


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LOL

Boy I was thinking WHAT???? \:D


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Thought that would get someone.


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So is it a bad thing if I don't go to the funeral and put myself out there for her family to look at and say why is he here?

I just feel so strange being around a group that use to be there for me and now I am the outsider. It is a private burial service so it is just family members. If I knew it would not affect the situation between my wife and I, I would not go, but I also do not want to make anything worse.


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If your W told you that it was up to you, that she didn't want to tell you that you couldn't go, then take her at her word. Go for yourself only if it is meaningful for YOU to say goodbye to her grandmother in that fashion at that time. Otherwise, don't go.

If you would like to go in order to comfort your wife and your inlaws, but you know that it won't happen like that, then don't go.

Don't let it be about your in-laws or your wife or what anyone else thinks of you.

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It would be for myself and her grandmother, but I can also go after the fact to show my respects.
I know at the service it wouldn't be about us. I cannot think of another way to put it other than I would feel like the murderer going to the victims funeral. I know that doesn't make sense but I feel that I am not wanted to be present, at least in my own mind.


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Well my IL's just called, they are coming over to pick up my son. Anyone want to answer the door for me and send them away?


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