Yoyo, I am a country music fan, and I can definately relate to that song too. Actually, I can relate to too many country songs. I told my fil way back in March that "I was letting myself go". He said why would you do that you are just fine the way you are. I said if H comes back, he is going to be coming back to a whole new me.
My mil just called me. I haven't talked to her in a few days, and we used to talk about everyday. I'm trying to cut off some contact with my ils, not that I don't like talking to them, but I think it will help me detach. From the conversation, I still got the impression that H is miserable, and he still doesn't know what he wants to do. I guess he is in denial not only about how screwed up his life but that this marriage is over. I want to scream at him and say "THERE IS NO CHOICE TO MAKE. WE ARE DONE. YOU WANTED SOMEONE TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO, SO I MADE IT EASY ON YOU. I MADE THE CHOICE FOR YOU. IF THE OW IS SO GREAT, BE WITH HER AND LEAVE ME THE H$LL ALONE. I'M MOVING ON."
I think that he is going to be in the area this weekend. I think that he plans on meeting up with me to give me the D papers. I'm sure that he didn't want to just send them because he wants to see my reaction and manipulate the situation if he can. If I do see him, I have to be strong. I can't back down (easier said than done). I can't say Is this what you really want? I've done that before and look at where it has got me. My plan is to take the papers, but I am not signing them with him there. I am going to consult an attorney before signing to make sure they say what they are supposed to. I am going to pretend that D is what I want and see his reaction. Actually, I wouldn't be completely pretending, part of me does want a D. Any advice on how to handle this situation?
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
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