Nattitude, How did the conversation go this evening with your H?
Well, I ended up bringing it up after the kids were all in bed. He really doesn't want to make any plans. I told him that I was looking at the calendar the day before and I realized that there aren't many weekends left in the summer and I wanted to make sure we planned some things for the kids. He said "well, it's not like they're having a miserable summer." Then I told him I had already made reservations at a hotel that we've been going to for the past 5 years. They have a 24 hour cancellation policy, so cancelling would not be a big deal. I told him that we could decide when it got a little closer and I wouldn't tell the kids. I am thinking that I will take the kids myself if he doesn't want to go.
I also told him I wanted to plan a weekend to visit my family, who live about 5 hours away. He told me that there was no reason that I couldn't go by myself with the kids. I said that I knew that, but it would be hard to do the drive alone with three kids, and my parents don't know that anything is wrong with us (I haven't gone to see them without him since we were first dating). He made it clear that he doesn't want to go, so I don't know what I'll be doing about that. I guess things are just as unplanned as they were yesterday before I talked to him.
Originally Posted By: Matt-14 (HIS)
Does your family or his family know about your sitch? Mine and W's family know what is going on. I wish they didn't though. Too many questions, advice, pressure and emotions!
I have only told 3 friends about our sitch and haven't said anything to my family. I don't want the extra questions, advice, pressure and emotions that you're experiencing! I haven't told anyone about the gambling, except for our Cs and you fine DBing friends. I guess I am sort of protecting him because I don't want friends and family to judge him or take sides.
We have a C session scheduled for next Thursday, 7/19 with the new C. I reminded him about that yesterday and he got quiet and said that he thought I was going alone. I told him that I wanted to go together. He was non-committal, as he is about everything lately. I guess I'll find out next week if he's going.
Things seem so much better when I'm not bringing up anything related to the R or any future plans. More later. Thanks.
