Well, it was a nice dinner with my family for mom's birthday. There is no way that anyone in my family picked up that we are having troubles. That is what makes this whole process so frustrating. We still get along. We are best friends. After dinner we all went back to the condo for cake and ice cream. Then we hung out and watched some TV and then my sister and brother in law left around 9. Then my parents and little sister left around 10. I wasn't sure what to expect from my W. As soon as my parents left she went onto the patio to use the phone. I laid down on the couch. She came back in and sat down and we watched TV. I fell asleep and she woke me up about midnight and asked if I was going to sleep out here or in the bedroom. I told her I was going to sleep in the bedroom. She said that she was going to sleep out there because she was going to stay at female friends' house "this week" but was tired. I said whatever, you want and got up and went to bed. When I woke up about 3, she was lying in bed, although I suspect it was because our cable box shut off- we have been having trouble with the one in the living room- and she needs to have a TV on to be able to sleep.

I left her this morning without saying goodbye and just left a note. Last night when my brother in law asked when we were going to move the rest of our things into the condo, she said that it was not much stuff, and went into the bedroom and told me that she really wanted to move our treadmill to the condo. I don't understand where she is coming from. I don't think I ever will. Two days before she was telling me that she needed to get away from me and that she couldn't live like this anymore, and since then, she has been doing the complete opposite-not that I am complaining but I feel like a yo-yo.

I really hope that she goes to see somebody soon. I talked to MIL this morning and MIL has been talking to her therapist about my wife, and her therapist is absolutely convinced that my W is depressed and needs to go see someone. I think I may ask her again if she has made any appointment to go see someone. If not, I received a couple of names of some local doctors. I think this may be the first step to getting her back and track, and then thereafter, getting us back on track.