Gone Dancin's Dilemma, 2

[OneWish]

"I'd like to give us another chance to work things out with a clean slate, and go nice and slow with no expectations and strings attached. If it doesn't work then we can always follow through with the D at that time. I was a fool to file in the first place and I never wanted this D. I understand that you very well might, but I'd like you to consider saving this M one last time, because I think we can. I know I've made a lot of mistakes over the years, and I can never take them back. However, I have finally owned them and released them. They are the past and I've made a choice to leave them in the past. I've made a choice to leave all of the bad times in the past and to forgive, because that is the only way to move on and have a healthy life and R. It took some time, but I finally realize that I will be okay, with or without you. However, I prefer it to be with you. You've helped me to see what I'm in serious jeopardy of losing, and I don't want that. I'd like us to start over, W, and to do so as equals. I know we can do it right if we give it a second chance."

GD,

To be honest, you HAVE to do something. What do you have to lose? It can only affect your pride. Nothing else. If I were you, I would write this in a handwritten letter, it makes it more personal. Most people are better expressing themselves on paper versus in person. On paper, you are able to read it several times to ensure that the correct message comes across. I would write it. Just 'accidentially' leave it in a place that she will find it and don't bring it up. Your W will find it and I am sure she will think before responding. Even if she says no, don't react. Just be respectful and tell her that you understand and the door will always be open for reconciliation. I am thinking about doing this too. I gave my W an awesome letter last time that worked. I am going to open it up and re-draft it and give it to her. I am fighting for what I want. You need to do the same thing. Sitting back and hoping will not get you any where. You need to take risks! Wouldn't that be a 180 for you?

I took a little risk tonight and I was surprised. See my post.