changes in attitudes, changes in latitudes

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I just wanted to check in w/ you after your post on Nomo's thread.

Can I shoot straight with you? OK, I will then you can tell me to blank off...

This sounds like trying to "fix" something that you desparately want fixed and it may look fixed if you can get H to figure out his issue and start having R talks. I actually believe he may come to that point but my fear with the Gambling issue is that it affects everything, starts with money, trust and all that those 2 things affect which is everything.

So, it feels like it would be temporary. If he doesnt get real help with this, it could ruin not only your M but pull you and the kids right down with it. We worry about each other here so that is why I am trying to shoot straight.

So, how to deal with this? You mention he has gotten counseling but he definitely needs direct help w/ Gambling. This is one time where I totally agree that working on him is what he needs to do before he can make any progress w/ you. So, any thoughts on how to wake him up? Appeal to future of kids financially?

Excuse me for being blunt and maybe crossing over lines/rehashing.

CVA