Read the book. Last resort is just that...what you do when you can't do anything else. Going dark. Turning the lights out on the R, even if just temporarily. Meaning, you don't communicate, see each other, nada unless absolutely positively forced to (such as in an emergency). There's no "relationship" for a bit or longer really with an LRT. Being physically separated just puts some space between you and your spouse, doesn't mean the R is on hold or done and requires a no communications situation. You can use this to your advantage to observe him from a different perspective, too...
If he is saying that you're still friends, then there's still a dimmer on the R and the lights are not completely off. Keep the door open for conversations with him and let him set the pace.
If you have a C appt, just go in there with an open mind and see what happens.
Plus this space just might give you room to be able to come across what it is that makes him WANT to rush home to a W every day...maybe you can find what that is and do it eventually?
