Nattitude, How did the conversation go this evening with your H? I agree about the kids and vacation....if he doesn't want to go, go by yourself. I know I would rather do things as a family also but with our sitch's that may not happen.
Does your family or his family know about your sitch? Mine and W's family know what is going on. I wish they didn't though. Too many questions, advice, pressure and emotions!