Yeah, I know. He was saying some very intense stuff last night. Won't go into any details, however, I did make it clear today that we can't be doing that anymore. I'll be careful. I do love my H and don't want to do something stupid to mess it all up after I've worked so hard to repair things.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Hope everything went well at the doctor's app. Good to hear that everything got sorted with your other problem.
AndyV
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
I'm back. Had to take S1 to San Antonio. They scheduled his surgery for September. I'm doing ok. H seemed irritated today on the phone, but I'm assuming it's b/c he's mad that he can't be here to help me w/ S1's dr appt, etc. and the fact that they made us go all the way to San Antonio (3 1/2 hrs) just to look at him before they would schedule surgery. Now S1 and I have to go back 2 more times, 1 for surgery and 1 for follow up.
I was tempted to send him an email saying "I noticed you seemed angry or irritated earlier," but decided against it. Don't want to start anything unnecessary.
I'll get caught up w/ everybody else's sitch's in a little bit.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Something really, really good happened this a.m. Glad I didn't send that email
I was having a horrible morning w/ the boys. Remember, I have 3 boys, 7 yr old, 3 yr old & 1 yr old. We're talking 3 yr old doesn't want to get out of bed, cereal bowl spilled all over office, drink spilled all over dining room, etc. Kept my cool, but H had called at about the time the cereal took a leap off the table so I said "I've gotta go, talk to you later" and hung up.
Well, he actually called me back a little bit later & said "I just want to tell you 2 things: 1. I love you very much and 2. I have all due respect for what you are doing w/ the boys."
I thanked him and said I really appreciated it and I also sent him an email saying thank you again, it really meant a lot to me.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
You are really doing a good job with your boys. It isn't easy and having to do it by yourself is hard. It is nice that he is finally realizing the good job you have been doing...Pat yourself on the back you deserve it. Keep up the good work...
I think husbands really see how much a mom does also when they themselves get a chance on taking care of the kids or helping out themselves. My H has never paid me a compliment of a good mom per say. I alwasy did w/out his help. So now that my H is gone it really makes no difference w/out him. Some people say its hard w/out the other half,but not in my case cuz I did it all myself & we have 3 girls (WHINEY CITY) 6,7 & 10yrs old.