Actually WE do not "basically" agree however that is not important because this is about understanding YOUR Point Of View and working with that POV. I was checking to make sure that you agreed with the flip side of your post on men's communication.
So what do you think about this statement? (I don't know if you notice how often you apply negative connotations to women and positive to men) Well, this means that the man must understand (and most don't) he must work hard at opening himself up, to share more, to verbally satisfy his wife. Men need to get their focus completely off physical communication and to focus almost exclusively on in-depth conversations and expressing feelings (her communication)
Also let me ask these questions: 1) Are BOTH men's and women's needs equally important in a relationship? 2) For a marriage to be on solid ground BOTH partners need to be getting their needs met and meeting the others needs? 3) Do you believe that these needs need to be completely and fully met for each other at ALL times? 4) Do you know what your wife's communication needs are? If so, how do you know her needs – did she tell you or have you assumed?
I will stop here and let you answer. Please answer these questions DIRECTLY - NO TANGENTS or else we will not be able to continue this line of thinking.
Oh and one extra question. Have you been told at work or at home that you do not listen well? I ask this because my previous post was fairly short and yet you completely missed the sentence below and thought that we agreed. It might be very frustrating for your wife if you do not HEAR what she has to say.
(To be clear I do not view men and women like this)
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
