Thanks for the encouragement H! She seems to be telling the truth, a lot of trust is destroyed right now, but everything she does checks out. I just think she is naive and if I push she will fall right into the arms of OM.
GD,
Your right the rock technique is working wonders. She is turning to me when she needs help, financially and emotionally. Wish there was some physical turning; yes I’m a bad man!
I don’t necessarily feel like I’m becoming a doormat, I just don’t understand comments like she did about the driving farther and winter thing. It is almost like someone else told her to say them, if that is the case one of two things are happening; 1) it is a test to see if I’m really there to help, 2) whomever is helping her, there combined IQ actually drops.
I think I do the sensible thing. The other car will save me a fortune in gas, and my rule is one day at a time, who cares if she will be at my door in 2 days for gas money. This is how I’ll do it.
W I’ll give you the car if that is what you want, but tell me your feedback of the gas issue and such….Then if she wants it I’ll trade. Grrr! I just filled it up last night. HAHA DOORMAT!
Groceries went well and she was happy and surprised. I did get a thank you but no specifics.
I’m doing well if I focus on my DB’ing efforts. I just vent a lot, not doing so well with the anger issue, IC session tomorrow. First real one, not with the close friend, who has really just been helping me cope.
