I need to get a PMA, because I'm turning into a cynic and just pissed. She needs her head back! That is my control issue though, always handling the cars, money, etc. Well you've been out two weeks and already broke. I pay your bills, groceries, everything. Maybe I need to rethink the help I'm providing and telling others how well it works.
Well, hasn't it worked to some extent? Reflect on how it would be if you hadn't? Maybe it would be better, but maybe it wouldn't. Maybe you would've drove her into the arms of an OM out of pure necessity. What happened to that rock I know?
I do here you on the car sitch and everything else, and if you feel like you're becoming a doormat, draw a line and state where it is. Or, at least explain your feelings about the vehicle sitch and what you think is the best/most frugal thing to do. Ask for her feedback -- I'll be she would appreciate that -- and continue from there.
How did the groceries thing go? I know you said she was holding her B & J's, crying and saying thank you, so I'm assuming she appreciated the help. However, I was wondering if she thanked you for getting her her favorite ice cream, Swedish fish, etc, too. Are you happy with the effort you made here?
You're having a rough day, my friend, but I think you've been a champ! Decide what you can and can't live with (like lac69 has recently said in kid's thread -- remember?) and go with that. You have to be able to sleep well at night, and if you think you're making the wrong decision, go down another tunnel and see if you can find cheese down it. Do you think the tunnel you're in now is lacking in that dept?
