I've been lurking here for a few weeks and just wanted to comment on the way that your wife is interacting with other men. I wish my wife had pushed away from an EA that led to a PA last year. You won't be destroyed. You sound much stronger than that. I echo Nomo's comments: You never know how you'll react until you're in that moment. I think I speak for everyone that we wish for that moment to never arrive for you.
Oooh, need to create a sig line.
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY