Wife gone...Is there hope

[Not Much Left]

Strange

I have thought about calling Inlaws myself. Never really at war, but one of biggest issues w/ my W and our sitch. "CVA never tried to connect w/ them, blah, blah, blah" We are 270 mi away, my W has always gone out of her way (our way) to get our small children up to see them and her sister (not much reciprocation - is that a word?) and she continues to blame me for us not seeing them and me being pissed that they are selfish and "why do we have to sacrifice all the time"...well, that doesnt work, does it?

So sorry to ramble. My MIL said to me on Fathers Day "I miss you being here!" Huh? almost fell down.

Long way of saying, this is a call that is hard to make as that is usually a tentative sitch. They tend to support their child or at least defend their actions, wouldnt you as a dad? So I dont know. Took me a while to give you no real advice.

I guess if you do call, "just wanted to say hello, let you know I still care about you / your daugher..whatever is appropriate" but the "careful" part is not having it come across as "manipulative" in terms of your sitch. i.e. your W sees you as trying to get in good with them all of a sudden.

I would go for it if you feel comfortable you wont start trying too hard in terms of winning them over.