Stillme & the Plan

[stillme]

Not much time to post now; just leaving for j.j. (& H will be there again). Will explain more later, hopefully. But, Yeah - tho both are somewhat similar to DBing in many respects, DBing was what was working -for me; maybe not so much for H, our R & def. not for our M. But it got me to Detached (which is what H couldn't stand and fueled his anger), but I realized I backslid on the Basics -- GALing w/o being mysterious; 180's mostly checking to see what H's reaction would be; and, uh, way too many Talks. Even the ones started by H & where I didn't much respond/react should not have happened. So back to tweaking the Basics the right way. The marathon is still on.