My wife is VERY, how do I put this, she says women's lib, but I say someone who likes to defy the norms. Which I have always admired and think is cool. But like you said, I don't know if she knows what she wants.
I'm really trying to listen hard, mirror, validate and empathize and this just hit me today, so I need to try harder. Well next time she brings it up, I'm going to get clarifications, in a IMAGO way.
Her timing really stinks. I've finished straighting out the house. I'm moving my office upstairs since I have an extra room up there now and it is larger. She actually got mad about that, I said well what bothers you, well that is the spare room. I didn't say anything, I don't get it. She took everything in it but a wreath.
I have the dog, and she is a great dog. Probably the best dog I have ever had. I feel bad though, I leave around 7 and I'm back around 8. She is in the backyard all day by herself. I have a neighbor who loves dogs, so he comes and grabs her and takes her to his house. He already has two. I think I might give her away though, feel terrible about it, but it is not good for her.
