I was just thinking about something I read in the e-book you recommended to me.
I'm rejecting this version of her. The cold hearted version. The version that would call my S14, while he is home alone at 9 PM and tell him that his parents are splitting up, then call my D12 at MIL's house, (same night), and give her the same news. Both D12 and S14 were distraught to say the least, W says to MIL, "I'll come home if you need me to, I will..."
Like you really need to be told to come be with your kids after you bombed them, after telling me we would talk to them together after the weekend.
Best part of this, after she got off the phone with them she walked into the bar with her divorced friend.
That same version that sees no need to apologize for cheating and sees no need to stop.
I'm rejecting that version of her. I'm walking away from it. If the other version of her wants to come back, the version that would do as you mentioned, suddenly realize what a mess she has made and try to repair it. If that side of her were to show up, I would be interested in reconciliation.
For now, the only version I'm seeing I don't want any part of, no way, no how, no thanks.
You're right. The advice I've received here has been priceless. Should it go that direction, I am now equipped to experience a fantastic relationship.
