You have tons of charm, plus you're incredibly witty. That hooks me immediately & I'm sure I can't be that different than other women.
Strong+Funny+Smart=Women Catcher
You're so sweet, sunny (((W&S)))! I seriously don't know where you guys get all of this, but thanks so much for the vote of confidence and boost of self esteem -- lord knows I need it! Your comments actually gave me a boost for last night (more on that below). And you might not be that different from other women, but apparently my W is! I wonder what equals GD's W Catcher...?
Atlas,
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I just think you can't go wrong as long as you stick to what your planning.
I don't know about that, but I know it can't hurt to try. You right on the upbeat part too -- if I'm going to throw caution into the wind and approach W with a talk about reconciliation somewhere down the road with a clean slate, no strings, and all of that, I'm going to have to do it with great confidence. I'm going to have to say it with a twinkle in my eye, and look so deep into her eyes that I can see her soul and she can see mine. I can't half-a$$ it, for sure. It'll be crunch time and I've got to be calm and collected in the clutch (what an alliteration!). Thanks for the vote of confidence, Atlas -- we'll see how it goes...
Journaling,
Last night around 6:00 my friend and his fiance (W's friend and coworker) called me to see if I wanted to got to the movies with them. I said sure, and before they showed up at my house I cleaned up and made sure I was looking my best. I've decided that anytime I'm around people who associate with W, I'm going to be on top of my game and try to be as confident, humorous, witty and charming (thanks sunny!) as possible. This seemed to work out real well last week when the 3 of us went out for dinner (remember that post?) as friend's fiance and I got along real well (for a change) and she made some comments about how good I'm looking.
So, we went to the movies (Shrek the Third, which I'd seen with my kids but they hadn't yet) and had a blast. I didn't like it so much the first time, but seeing it with adult friends can sure change things!
After the movie we came back to my place and decided to play some croquet. I again was polite to the fiance and asked about her, complimented her on her attire, etc. As we played I also fudged the rules for her if she missed a wicket here and there (she's horrible at croquet!), and would say "that went in!" even though we all knew it didn't. She seemed to appreciate this. I was definitely on my A game again, and it felt so good. I knew I was exuting some serious confidence (not in a cocky way though -- I have a hard time being cocky, which is a good thing I think).
After it got too dark to play and they had to leave, we went inside and BS'd for a few minutes. During this time, friend's fiance again commented on how I was looking, saying "Wow GD, you are really filling out. You look good!" I was cool about it and just smiled and said "Thanks." Then I joked around a little and flexed a bicep. Fiance was like, "Wow! Do you mind if I feel it?" "No, go ahead." "Dang! (looking at my friend) It's even harder than yours, honey!" (my friend is a construction worker and has always been really toned). Some more talk about it took place and it ended with fiancee saying, "I don't think I've ever seen you in this good a' shape! This is probably the best shape you've been in since High School, huh?" I said "Yeah, probably." Then we wrapped things up and I walked them to the door, thanked them for the evening and said goodnight.
Again, I never brought W up during the night, which I was happy about. Fiancee did once regarding something that had recently happened, and when she apologized for bringing her up I just said with more or less indifference mixed with an upbeat tone, "that's okay -- don't worry about it." That was all the W talk for the night.
So, overall a very good night. Having W's friend bring up all of that stuff about my physique again (2 for 2 now) has been like gold for me! Being the gossiper she is, I'm sure she'll mention it at some point to W, and possibly even to other coworkers who know me. The word will get out, and W will hopefully be thinking about it and checking me out more and more as we exchange the kids and such. Couple this with my compliments and pleasantries to friend's fiance, and I think I'm on a roll. It may take some time -- even post-D -- but I'm will to continue sowing the seeds of doubt in any and all ways I can.
I think that I'm going to invite them to my Lindy Hop dance night on Monday so they can a)begin learning it, and b) see me burn up the dance floor! Being that I've never danced during my R/M with W and that she loves to dance, this should again get back to W. I've been getting really good, and finally ready to let it get back to W.
Thanks for trudging through my post -- still working on my problem with being so meticulous (it's a disease, but I'm not sure if it's curable yet)!
