You know, I've often written on threads, don't recall if I wrote it on yours, that one of the great lessons I've learned through this (my sitch) came from my experiences as a frequent flyer. What does the FAA announcement say you should do if there is a drop in cabin pressure and masks fall from the overhead compartment? Secure YOUR mask before helping others. It sounds so selfish that we should help ourselves before others - but what happens if you pass out trying to secure someone elses mask?
Your right, you'd be there if she was sick in some other way. But let me ask, if you wore yourself out and didn't take care of yourself while caring for her, you might end up in a bed next to her. Now, you have a person that wants no part of what you have to give - and in all likelihood, she just doesn't even realize this. So, time to put on that mask.
And, great N.U.T. reference.
So, let's say you pick yourself up from this experience, and you move on through life as a better man. You're already on that journey. No one can say that she won't suddenly realise what a mess she has made. She has to do that on her own. And in the meantime, you'll be getting better, and stronger EVERY day.
Look, this sucks. Not easy. But you will endure. Look what you have learned and the advice you have received....time to rebuild, sans the drama. And as I say in my tagline, sometimes grace means that life is not fair. Well, there you go, you can walk gracefully, with head high as a new man. Time to take on the world.
Hope that helps.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
