Your H is similar to mine in some ways & the more you detach & act uninterested, the better, it seems to me. Looks like he heads in your direction when you do.
Let him send all the hints he wants (ie., being miserable),but make him work to get you back. Men, people actually, like to know that the person they want to be with won't let them call all the shots.
I don't think you missed an opportunity, I think you did an excellent job in creating one. One where your H doesn't feel he can just walk right back in, no problem, & not have to be held accountable for his stuff. You have a perfect setup to create some boundaries....If you tell him "no R talk" until you see some changes, it'll have a bigger/better result I have a feeling.
Yes, I think his radar is going off & he doesn't like it, so he'll be pushing for confirmation that you're still there, under his control.
Many of us were just saying how nice it is to take a break from them & be on our own for a while. That's very healthy IMO, & does the R wonders.
