The "she can't do it" part above was my words to her. No, I don't want any part of an open marriage, even if the 'open' only means one other person, once every few months, and that person is "safe", and someone we have both known for a long time. What a crock. No thank you.
W just called. She forwarded me an e-mail from some place called 'we the people'. It's another online legal type thing. W was expecting something more from me I think. I just said okay, I'll take a look. Basically she has filed. She is enroute to her IC, my biggest fan by far. =)
And she is going back up to visit OW for weekend in August.