Valentines day massacre

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Thanks Theoden,
I hope OL does call you, or email. I agree with your post. Maybe it all needed to be said more forcefully.

I especially agree with #5. (I don't really know how badly OL is in need of saving, but the rest is obvious to me - "Don't try to save your marriage. Any attempts will backfire. Save yourself."

OL, I'd say any attempt to initiate contact with your W (like flowers) is a mistake.

Detach, take care of yourself. With some luck, she may decide to re-engage with you. To me, the tricky part is to detach, move on with your life, but be open to her if she initiates contact. To me, it's easier to close that door completely.

OL, good luck. Theoden has given fantastic advice.

Theoden, thanks. I need to hear that stuff again too. And I'm glad you've posted. Even here, it's often hard to get good advice.