Sounds like the night went better than you expected. Hope your Mom's party is a a success. You are very prudent not letting this cat out of the bag with your family. It would probably make things very tense for your wife who already feels that maybe she should not attend. You are doing a great job at handling all this. Keep it up. Keep loving your wife and supporting her without pressure. If she is anything like me, confusion is just the start. Once she deals with any depression/mood disorders she will be able to think clearer. Hang in there Stew!
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.