Your H for whatever reason, fear, attraction, or even pride (you're not going to tell me what to do type of thing) cannot let go of OW.
When this comes up again, because it will, since setting boundaries has not worked and your H continues to cross the line on what he knows is acceptable to you, just ask him to think about why? Why he chooses to do this when he knows how it makes you feel. Say you don't want an answer but you want him to think about it and maybe he'll look inward. Maybe not.
The point I am trying to make is that you can't make him see things your way; he has to figure out why he is doing this and what his motives are for himself.
I hope that you continue to take care of yourself. I know this must be so hard especially with the recent good times with H. Stay strong, thinking of you.....
carrie
Me: 41 H: 42 Married: 13Y, together 24 Kids: S11, S9, D6 Bomb: 7/11/06, now piecing
