Love, what is it, is it real, does it matter?

[MaxP]

Tyler,

I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. My only advice would be to keep talking and writing about what you feel to get it out of your system (or at least relieve the pressure). Then focus on yourself and your kids. Do what you need to do to keep yourself sane and rational and to prevent something stupid from happening that you might regret later. I know that it will seem incredibly hard, but you still can choose what to feel, or at least make small tweaks to your feelings even now. Also, seek out other men who have been in the same position and talk to them (I think said you have).

I know that love is a choice and that seems impossible right now. I think your wife has made an unfair and unsustainable request of you in wanting both worlds, but that can be dealt with later.

Keep strong and look after yourself and your kids and try not to act too quickly.

If you need to vent anger then exercise and while it may seem absurd, don't blame your wife or yourself. You are not at fault.

Max