Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[MaxP]

Agent99,

I will be thinking of you. We are in the same place. I am trying to stay really positive and will fill my time with as many activities as possible. I am also going to focus on what makes me happy and what I can do to have fun and then do these things. A 180 for me is to get on and organize stuff, so I am saying yes to things I would previously have said no to. One of the things I know I do is hold back, and it really annoys me now. No more.

I don't know if my W will choose to sleep with someone else or not, like you the thought of it makes me incredibly sad and sick and uncomfortable - but I can't control what happens either. I think she views sex quite differently to me, it can be just a physical act for her, where it is almost always an emotional act for me. So I need to focus on myself and hope she focuses on herself too and what this all means to her. We still get on really well. I still do not understand how we have got here, it seems crazy, but there we are. We have had a good week. However, something still does not add up for me, which is why I am lost. My C thinks what has happened is odd behaviour too. What can you do?

You will not be able to stay focused and positive all of the time, but you can tip the balance in your favour. Force yourself to think about what makes you happy and then introduce changes. I hope it works for me, unfortunately I am about to find out. Only three days left. I can't believe it. What is she thinking?

Max