Thanks I think I really helped them with the groceries, I was sick while doing it, thinking oh here is the control and she will just dismiss it, but she didn’t. I really think she is questioning, one thing I forgot with MIL, is W said I was so nice and acting great about the whole thing and she couldn’t understand why. MIL told her it was because I loved her and cared for her, but she dismissed it.
The W is empty when it comes to turning to people. We have been all over this great country doing education for 4 years. Friends have families and moved on. Basically we are surrounded by only our family, I still have childhood friends since we relocated to where we grew up. But W doesn’t, it has always been a sticking point. She doesn’t do well with making friends, and I can honestly say I don’t know why. I do know that she has made poor choices in friends in the past and that has bitten her. So she is careful and too cautious and won’t give anyone slack.
MIL is the only person I can trust on that side of the aisle. Everyone else is dealing with her D wake, and not doing well. This could be 2 for 4 official divorces and another isn’t a marriage, it is a tolerable situation for kids. Only one marriage is worth the paper it is written on, and in all actuality I’m impressed with them and strive to be like they are.
So she is alone and men find her attractive and as a counselor she thinks deep down everyone is good. BS. She grew up with dealing with her M’s issues. So she is reaching out, tonight she wanted to run quickly cause a new girlfriend was going to come over to her apartment, but she never called back. I think W may be dumping on them and no one will deal with that in a new friendship. This really concerns me, because a man will do a lot to see the bedroom. She seems to have good sight on that and pushes them away when they start heading that direction, but eventually, I mean it’s only a matter of time. I’ll be destroyed.
I guess I keep the head up. Thanks for the posts, I appreciate it.
