Ok -- I figured Outtaluck needed something intense and direct, like a phone call.
These comments are for Outtaluck...
1. Let's start with the name, Outtaluck: it reflects a negative frame on life. "Gee..I'm out of luck." Change that name.
2. Why the heck did you move out? Because your cheating wife asked you to? If she wants out of the marriage, let HER move out. I don;t care if it's her family's house. Once she had you out, she started getting nasty. She NEEDS to treat you like crap to justify the divorce and the affair. And you are letting her do that. If you act like a doormat, people will wipe thwie feet on you.
3. It's time to get your sh*t together. You need a life make-over. I like the idea of going to the gym. Get in great shape. I like the bar-tending school thing. Friend, your # 1 priority is getting a decent paying job and eventually finding a career that can engage your talents. For men, when their mission in life is unclear and their career is floundering and they can't even pay the bills, their self-respect is out the window. You are bored with you life and your wife got bored with you. Plain and simple. You need to blossom and grow in this area. It will help cure your depression and negative thought patterns. Often, people, even our wives, will kick us when we are down. Get up! You need to be confident, clear and focused.
4. You need to get the fight and fun back in you. I noticed in old posts when you teased her, acted light and seemed to be having fun she warmed up. Start living a meaningful, fun life. Start handing out with old friends. Make new friends. Do it for YOU. She might notice.
5. Don't try to save your marriage. Any attempts will backfire. Save yourself. You are in bad need of saving.
6. Start taking up hobbies that require laser-like focus that get you out of own head and problems. It freed up your creative mind.
Rock climbing? Karate? Painting? Ballroom dancing?
7. Reclaim your manhood. You are a warrior. Ask yourself the hard questions:
Who am I? What do Iwant to accomplish in life? What do I delight in?
8. For lack of a better term, find yourself. Find your center and live from it. Maybe developing a psiritual practive might help. Prayer? Going to church?
9. Surround youself with people who love you and care for you:
Friends Family Church goers Fellow hobby enthusiasts
