Pretty Much Done

[built4speed]

I did a bit of a test of the integrity of W. She has been accusing me of being overbearing, taking without giving, making sure I got mine and that she didn't get hers, etc. She was especially upset about the amount of kids support I'll be paying. Even though I'm paying all of the kid expenses plus $400 a month, she felt completely cheated and abused. (See the previous several pagers for her reaction to it).

Anyway, I told her I was uncomfortable moving this month without something in writing saying she agreed to the deal. It appears that it would be basically unenforcable even if she did sign something, so it really doesn't matter. Anyway, she was refusing to sign anything even though she swears the deal is acceptable. I asked her why she wouldn't sign anything then. She said she didn't want me somehow using it as leverage as we figure out who takes what of the house contents.

So, I told her I would give her the list of items I had put in a list and she could take anything she wanted. I said if she didn't mind having the kids sleeping on the floor at my new place, then just keep everything. But what I really wanted to know was: when she had all the control of the sitch, what would she do? Would she be fair and equitable, or would she somehow justify taking more?

You know the answer: it looks like I'll be getting about a quarter of the house stuff.

It's just unbelieveble. If you had any idea how much money I spent on her over the last 20 years, your jaw would drop. There was never one time when she asked to buy something that I said no. When I point that out, she says she felt like I was monitoring every penny. She accuses me of getting Vonage so I could monitor her calls, forgetting we dropped our bill by $50 a month, and that I would suspect that you can probably see the complete list of calls made from every phone company. I paid for Lazik out of my pocket. Bought her a brand new Oddessey minivan. Houses, vacations, elective surgery, giving her parents money. I was generous.

She, however, when given the same control, is well, call it what you will.