{{{Nikki}}}-- I don't know how that happens within the same man...he seems to so genuinely want to be with you, and then that. He is like a little kid, testing boundaries to see what he can get away with.
By setting up another space, it may demonstrate with actions that you mean business. I like Ellie's idea of writing it down, too. Do you think that this may be something that he is willing to go to a MC for, to break the cycle of the same convo/struggle that keeps going around and around? Tell him you need a translator, or another perspective, or something...
He might need an outsider's opinion as to how inappropriate he is being (that was the only thing that broke through to my H--the neighbors started talking!)
You have helped me so much--please let me know if there is anything I can do in return. Hang in there... --Donna
