I had to stay at work for an extra hour. Right when I was telling the superviser I had to leave My phone was ringing. I left work, called her back right away and got the ring-beep she was on the phone. so i kept calling till she answered, 4 times. She said you dont have to harass me. I said what did you want and how do I know our daughter isint in labor. I was ready to go hame and break her phone. I calmed down when I called a friend he basically reconfirmed what I thought to not move out and suggest she do it, not that it would happen but at least make her think about it.
I didnt break her phone. She was downstairs talking to him when I started typing. the phone rang. I looked up at the caller id and it was him. I was sooooooooooooo tempted to answer it.
I am very stressed out right now. I wish she would have gone on her 'trip' so I could have done the thingh I had planned.
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
had a we have to talk conversation. basicly i said I wouldn't leave , she said so you want me to leave and take the kids. of corse not. more was said and she said that was what she was going to do. I followed her downstairs where she opened the paper and started looking at housing I assume. I continued to the computer. probably 5 min and she came in and said she had made 1/3 of her decision. alone or him crying. I followed her to living room. She said I cant believe you would kick your family out. I said I didn't. I told her I just wanted her to have to think about what she is doing. I went upstairs crying went into our room, enraged I broke her fan and laid on the bed crying harder than I have ever cryed. She came in and i said leave me alone and went into other room to cry. She followed We talked more about it and I find out that he said to her if youre not happy ask him to leave, she said that i wouldnt and he said mabe you are not being clear to him. That really pissed me off. Basicly she said that every thing that is happening is my fault because of what i have done.
She went to talk to him and apperently he wont talk to her. cause im still here. I said did he give you an ultamatum. he said i won and i must be happy. she said im not. now she wants the computer to see if he's on.
LS, I'm so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. At this point we can not change their minds. We all try, but it's useless. It has to be their choice. God wants them to do right, but he gives us all free will. It pains him when we don't make the right decisions, but he still allows us free will. Don't move out of the house until you talk to a lawyer. It may be that she would turn it around and accuse you of abandonment. This is what happened to my friend's brother. He didn't want to disrupt the children's lives so he moved when he found out she was cheating for the second time. Now she is going around and saying that he abandoned his family she even had the nerve to tell their pastor this. It's amazing how they can turn everything around to their advantage, but in the end if we stay moral and strong we will be the one who can hold our heads high. You have admitted that you weren't perfect and repented, that's what God ask us to do. He does forgive us if we repent. If only our spouses would wake up, but we can't depend on that we have to take charge of our lives and take care of our children. Tomorrow will be a new day.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I don't understand. I don't care about the past but right now is your W seeing another man? And I assume this OM has a house? Is he married? Why would she want you to move when she could move in with him? Sounds to me she is in lala land. Has figured you cheated on her at one time so it's an OK life style. And is confused. Somehow she connected to this guy who is manipulating her. She didn't want to move but he told her to tell you to move? Is this guy a real-estate agent? DO NOT GO anywhere. You are not throwing your family out she would be TAKING THEM. If she leaves do not change the locks or your phone number. That way she cannot say you locked her out. I have had the same phone number for 25 years. The same number I had during my first marriage. That way my X wife could call my daughter who I had custody of. She has not called yet my d's 22&25.
Husband
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
-She hasnt met him in person yet, that was suposed to be today. -I think he rents an efficiency. -He has never been married. wants to settle down. and couple kids. -he litterally lives half way across the US -She blames me for everything (can't say that I blame her) I was committed the last 3 years I lost my communication skills and didn't seek help. all down hill after that.
I was trying to give her space and do my own thing. I hav a plan on what i was going to do throughout this whole ordeal. Now i dont know what to do. my friend suggested a dale carnegie class that is coming to our town. I looked it up and thought I wuold suggest it at work, I know a coworker who took it and liked it.
