However, I think it is more common for WA men than WA women to want to come back -- do you agree with me on this?
I don't. Why would that be?
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
I figure that if she turns me down, I would also tell her that I wouldn't be opposed to working on it sometime down the road if her R with OM doesn't pan out. That we could take it nice and slow with a clean slate, no expectations, strings attached, etc.
I like this. I'd also try to work the clean slate idea into the talk in two-to-three weeks, since she has used those words/ideas.
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
Tell her that all she would have to do is let me know if she ever wanted to give that a go, and I would be all ears. Don't know if I should add anything like "as long as I haven't moved on" into it though. Thoughts on all of this?
I don't like the idea of saying ever - sounds a little desperate. Stick with down the road and then just be silent. It's unspoken, but surely known, that you could move on. Go with silence.
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
I guess I'm just concerned about pushing and thereby delaying any possible reconciliation. I know I shouldn't, but that has been my frame of mind. I'll stop doing that -- I know Michele says don't worry about making mistakes.
I don't see your fear here as being reasonable. I'd say let this go totally. Michele also says lose your solutions blockers and start with a beginner's mind.
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
What charm? I'm not sure what that would be either. I don't believe I have any "charm". Dang I need help!
BS. Your charm oozes out on this board. Seriously. Ladies, am I right?
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
I don't know what this all meant and the reasons behind her being upset, and don't know if I ever will.
I think she cared about you.
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
I also know that early in the sep that W had mentioned to them that she was really surprised at the way I had behaved and how I had helped her out, and never thought I would do all of that for her.
Great!
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
HOW?!?! I don't have any opportunities to!!!
Just like you are now, plus a little more PLL. Yes you do, with the kid exchange and issues.
Hope it helps, Nomopo
PS - sorry to interrupt Sunny!
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
