No sad face, mkultra! My husband has 0% desire for this marriage. Has zero love for me, so he says (and I see it). But he said he would attend the retreat, for ME. I don't care how I get him there, I just want him there. Maybe something will speak to him and that door will crack open just a little bit.
He is NOT a tough guy, very much a self-admitted coward an totally insecure. No tough guy would wait for his wife to "get a clue" and "come along for the ride" to dissolution, knowing full well she does not agree. A tough guy would file for divorce.
No tough guy would go to a three day retreat, just 'cuz his wife TOLD him he had to go. If he were tough (and DONE) he'd not go.
I am hoping he is not JUST a wimp and a coward, that these actions show that there is just a teensy bit of doubt in him.
I am SCARED. I am trying to call his bluff, knowing he is insecure. I almost think I know him well enough to STAND and say "No" even if he asks for a divorce. My strength might scare him enough to not do anything. If I roll over on my back and go along with him, he will proceed. But I wonder what happens if I fight for our marriage. . . . .
Give me the hope, the strength to stand up and fight. I am losing steam . .
ME 40 HIM 48 Married one year. First for him Second for me Proud parents of a baby girl
