I wouldn't inflame the anger side at all. I wld even be tempted to STOP any thoughts that he may have of you being involved elsewhere.Take the heat away from the situation as much as possible. WE know that you are not, and after what your H has done why shouldn't you be? But is it worth all the anger and threats it brings with it. Just the thought that there may be someone else is winding him up. That doesn't mean he still wants you but it could do. How can you ever know from what is going on when he is angry? - he won't be communicating at his best then. Human nature unfortunatley is a wierd thing and just coz he may not WANT you at this moment in time it doesn't mean that anyone else can HAVE you to him. I know that's not fair and not right but he can't see that; especially if he's angry. If that is the situation he can only get to realise it over time.
I'd go as dark as poss and like GD say's not say anything to give him an excuse to be angry. YOU KNOW that you are doing the right thing and behaving the right way - let that be enough.
From what you have said before , you seem to have been able to reduce his aggression previously by avoiding his anger and defusing it - Go for that approach again - you've proven before that it can help your sitch.
Good luck
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
