Wife gone...Is there hope

[Nomopo]

Hi Mate!

Just a little thought occurred to me today while at work, previous to this I was coming home tonight & was going to call her & ask her what it she wants... divorce? if so please go ahead with your plan if it's truly what she wants.

I don't like this idea unless you want a divorce. I think we can all render a pretty good guess as to what her answer would be if forced to answer it now. Time is on your side. Keeping focusing on you, GAL, have fun, do the things you want, and see where you are in a few months. If she hasn't filed by then, I say that is an excellent sign given her past statements. If you really need an answer now more than you need to save you r M, then go ahead and ask.

However, back to what I was going to say. She has not actually asked or said she wants a D, well not directly anyway. She has asked me what I think about the D & that it has to be me that files....Call me slow but I did'nt think of this until a few hrs ago.

It's an important point. I think you noticed it before (and we discussed at least part of what you wrote, but you may have forgotten or lost sight of it.

I may call her in a day or so & just say Hi, test the water & see if she mentions anything about the D, if she does not, then I guess thats quite positive.

Sounds like a fine idea. Experiment and monitor results.

I keep telling myself, if she wanted to talk she would call me, is that the right attitude? i'm not sure.

I definitely think so.

I would like to ask, given my sitch with no kids & no contact fast coming, would you be happy to follow that advice?

Tough for me to say for sure, since I'm not in your shoes. It could be harder not knowing at all what is happening with her, but easier not having to prepare for, handle, analyze, etc. every little contact you have.

It is what it is mate. Keep your focus on you, your eyes on your goals, and be patient/manage those emotions.

Hang in there,
Nomopo