H did make the comment a while back when he was still at home that things btw us as far as arguing were a whole lot better. I have tried difusing his anger in many diff ways like trying to lighten the mood by being funny ,but H sees that as "making fun of him". So no matter what I tried I was always the bad guy. GD, My H is a control freak. The only thing though its like he sees woamen like the old style of "cooking ,behind the kithcen barefoot and pregnant". I work full time & we have 3 little ones under the age of ten yrs.I was not "allowed" to sit infront of the tv & veg like him on the weekends. I was not allowed to get sick. WHenver I was too tired to do chores or put it off for later he would complain,but he could veg & not lift a finger on anything.
His significance of "father of the year" is that he would pay & takes us to amusement parks(he is the biggest kid here).BUT when at home he would not have the patience or the time to attend to the girls. I think that makes a father,doing homework,reading to them, spending qulaity time.We would mainly go for him. He earns 30 grand more than I. Now he his biggest complaint is that he would pay for all of our outings. Well,unfortunatly unlike him I can't purchase everything I want. I buy all the girls needs first.He is also the "wife" in the sense that he's the big spender (on stuff for himself only),clothes.sport events.,etc.
Itskat, I get what you mean about H running the show. When it was time to go out the girls had to dress w/ what he wanted them to wear. I could never dress them correctly according to him.We had to go where he wanted & when he wanted.
If h does move back I will continue to GAL b/c he will expect that to stop even though he will still go where he pleases. This time around I will not put off my plans if he doesn't want to join in the family outings.
H feels that when he is in the right I should just listen and not have an opinion(sort of like his Jewish boses) not offense to any Jews.
