Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

If he has "decided" to be "free," well then I suppose that he would consider himself free to sleep with you if you allow it (just as with every other female on the planet).

I would hope that he hasn't decided to divorce you, and then slept with you anyway, but then he's been doing that for six years now, hasn't he?

Wow. Ouch, 2x4's are hard.

As to MLC, don't necessarily consider all six years. He made his "plan" in 2001, when maybe you weren't so fun to be around. He probably did that as a way to keep himself from leaving at that point.

I think you are exactly right on that one

The music stuff is somewhat newer than that, isn't it? At least the renewed interest and heavier involvement? That might be more like when the MLC hit.

Did I mention the 66 mustang he bought 3 or 4 years ago? How about the brand new mustang convertible he bought last year? The convertible that I found out was coming from the neighbor !

In light of last night's events, I would suggest that if things are going similarly tonight, you try to initiate a bit of snuggling. It wasn't clear to me if he rebuffed you in that area or you were both too self-conscious to initiate.

I know that *I* felt self-conscious. I don't want to pressure him/throw myself at him.

If he normally liked snuggling before, he shouldn'd mind now. If he only snuggled before in order to smooth the way to sex, then he might think he can still get the sex without the snuggling. Not good.

No, we would snuggle regardless of the outcome.

Anyway, if you snuggle him tonight and he pulls back, you will know that he is treating you strictly as a booty call.

Yeah, I guess that's true. Poop.
I talked to Chuck DB Coach, who suggested that since he said he wants me to be sassy and that he likes it when I flirt with him, I should try to give him some "flirty" no's to sexual advances, so that he will appreciate when he get's a "yes". Not sure how to pull off a "flirty" rejection. The main point was to make sure it didn't come off like a punishment.

Chuck is in agreement with you guys that this sounds like a MLC.

Anyone know of any really good books that help a person not give a hoot what their spouse is doing or not doing?