How ya doing, I didn't mean to leave you hanging. It is SOOO easy to be caught up in the emotions. My "person" was a little less emotional about it then me. We started telling each others things that should only be discussed between a husband and Wife. It was then that WE realized that I was saying things to her that I would not want some guy saying to my wife and she was telling me things I would not my wife to talk about to another guy. She is trying to stop her EA with an OM. I have helped her understand how her husband feels. But it is kind of like trying to pull someone out of a rapidly flowing river and getting swept up in it yourself. We are still e-mailing each other but there is no longer any "intimate" talk. In your case being your husbands BF it could really back fire on you. Something completely innocent can look real bad. I did tell my wife that I was talking to my "friend". I told the truth about how my friend was having an affair and was helping me understand what drove her to it. That was months ago. It then went to the "intimate" talk. But has since retuned to just helping each other. Please be so careful. I was lucky that even though the "person" tossed her vows aside for the OM. She did not pursue me. I was an open wound waiting to be infected by this cheating disease.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
