I would agree w/ ^. If H is really having some serious anger issues, that is going to be very detrimental to you & children to have to be around that if he really does move back in.

If he can't talk calmly w/ you about what the 2 of you truly want to do from here on out, I'm thinking you may have to take some forward steps of your own on the D. But make sure that's really what you want before you do anything.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10