Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

MoPo,
Thanks for the feedback. It is always very useful and makes me think. I will definitely think more about any possible future ultimatum. I may also look at just increasing the level of control that I take over the sitch slowly over time (esp. where decision making about finances, etc. is concerned).

Just being an open, unwaivering, fearless, loving soul

I like this. Have you been loving so far? Seems like your do nothing is more indifferent than loving, but I realize you are contemplating a change.

Yup...Up to now, I have not really made any effort to show romantic love towards her as I did not want to be seen as pursuing/needy. This was necessary when I was in the post-bomb shock, but now that I am feeling confident and detached, I think I am ready to start experimenting, esp. Re: her LL. Theoden had recommended some of this earlier on, but I was just not ready for it.

That's it! Keep it up! I like your search for solutions much better than the 100% Do Nothing. Your W doesn't strike me a s capable of stepping up like the Do Nothing is designed to encourage/foster.

I agree, I think that her tendency towards depression fosters a general malaise which has gotten in the way of her setting any kinds of long term goals for herself. It has also resulted in a lot of criticism directed towards me and anything I try to do. I of course did a lot of things that only made this worse, like trying to get her to discuss options and collaboratively make decisions. She obviously was looking for someone to take charge and bring focus to her life and I was not that person. I am not sure exactly what to do with that insight, but I am going to keep it light and bright for a while and then see where that takes us!

SD