H is all about control. But why not just leave me be alone if he is so happy?
Could be for a few different reasons, I think. Has he actually said he is "so happy" or are these your words? One reason he's doing it could be that he isn't really happy and is considering whether or not the grass really is greener on the other side after all. Another could be that he wants to have his cake and eat it too -- he may just enjoy the power part of it. Also, the idea of of man's W being with someone else practically destroys us. It makes us darn near primal immediately following such revelations. We become very insecure because it makes us feel like we're less of a man when our W finds someone else more appealing to the extent that they choose that man over us. Bottom line though, I can't really say why he is doing this because none of us can get into his head (it's kind of small...jk).
I would suggest doing your best to not play his anger game and not to use God against him to make him feel guilty. When he emails or says mean and threatening things to you, let it just be water that rolls off your back (the duck analogy) and ignore it. Just don't go there. When H gets like that, if you tell him anything, tell him that you "can't talk right now and will do so when the dust settles and when the waters are calm." That it does neither of you any good to get into conversations like that. Keep doing it until he can settle his arse down and have a decent conversation with you. If he fires back up during the decent convo, excuse yourself again until the talk can be civil again. If he wants to talk with you, he will learn to keep his emotions in check as long as you stay consistent with this. This is my 2 cents, but it would be nice to get other people's take on all of this.
Do you post thoughtfully and consistently on other people's threads? That might help you get more traffic, I think.
