Big Girls Don't Cry

[wed2alien]

Hope,

Yes, we are interested and we remember and do care. You have been and still are such an inspiration to all of us. I am glad to hear your husband is coming along. There is something about the 2 yr mark after the bomb, I think. That is when my H began to come to his senses but it is such a slow and ongoing process.

I am glad you are focused on yourself. You are right when you say it can only be done on your own timetable. It is much healthier for us to remove ourselves from their daily chaos.

I felt the same as you about replay ending. You know when it happens but are afraid to believe it may really be over. The anger leaves and you see more of their old selves on a consistent basis, not just flashes.

Now, I only see "flashes" of the alien about every 4-5 months and it only lasts for one conversation or maybe a day. But it still scares the heck out of me.

I don't post regularly anymore, usually for updates or when I see the "alien" and feel like things are backsliding. I guess I need to learn to deal with those times.

Keep posting when you can. It is good to hear from others who were on the same timetable as me. And it does help the newcomers to see what the future could look like. They need to see all sides and possible outcomes and KNOW that they will be OK no matter what happens. We can, we do, and we will get through this.

wed2alien